I Hate Funerals

Call it denial, not getting closure, and I say whatever.  If I went to every SEAL or SOF brothers funeral that I’ve lost, I’d lose months of my year and precious time lost with my own children (one of whom was born when I was in Afghanistan).  Don’t ask about them because there’s too many creeps out there and I keep a pretty tight lid on my amazing kids.

Hating funerals comes with a price though.  I’ve actually been yelled at by former teammates: “What kind of friend are you! You didn’t even show up to (insert fallen SEALs name) funeral! Now you’re writing about it?!”

I’ve paid my fucking dues gents and I’m sure my friends and former teammates will appreciate my absence and one less grown man crying at their service.  You try holding back tears when a five-year-old boy tugs at your uniform pants and asks you where his dad is. Fuck me.

Instead I’ll choose to remember my buddies quietly and deal with things my own way.  Usually it’s tipping a good single malt scotch skyward with a “see you on the other side”…. Then I work on capturing their stories and sharing them.   That and I donate and help the SOF charities as much as I can.

The Legendary Jerry McCauley

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Every once in a while you meet someone in the TEAMS that is the stuff legends are made of.  This was the case when I first met Jerry in the hallways of SEAL Team 3 back in the late 90’s.  At the time Jerry was a senior E-6 and most likely one of the most senior guys at the TEAM, not counting the Vietnam hate crew of Half-ass (land mine in Nam took the other piece), Senior Chief Martin and Billy Nehl of course.  Shit, I remember walking into training cell at TEAM 3 and being terrorized by those guys (including Jerry).  Martin would grab me by the scruff and start yelling at me about stabbing some dude to death in the jungles of southeast Asia.  Crazy good stuff….and the stories!  It’s something today’s teams have lost a little of, along with a good ass stomping hazing.  It goes a long way to feeling proud that you’ve earned your Trident and been accepted by the warrior clan. Rest assured BUD/S is tough as ever but the probation period should be put back in place.  SQT instructors bond to much with their students and that makes it hard to shit can people and be unbiased about it.  Jerry would agree I’m sure.

Jerry’s Career Highlights

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