People often think of Spec Ops guys as people with a ton of attitude, swagger, and (over)confidence. But that’s the movies, not reality. In the real world of combat, swagger gets you killed — and probably a bunch of your buddies with you. In business, you may not get physically blown up, but you will get fiscally.
SEALs do have a level of confidence that is unusual and unshakable. But that’s not attitude — the opposite, in fact. You have to be open-minded, to be able to listen. Be flexible. Adapt.
I have very strong opinions, but I can also pivot on a dime and completely change my viewpoint, even on a long-held opinion, if someone presents a clear and cogent argument against it.
When Chris Kyle published his memoir, American Sniper, he wrote about an encounter with Jesse Ventura that Ventura claimed never happened. The dispute ended up in court. Then Chris was killed, but if you thought that would end the lawsuit, you were wrong, because Ventura continued to press the suit against Chris’s widow, Taya.
The SEAL community was outraged. This guy is going to sue Chris Kyle’s widow?! As you can imagine, it seemed as total a betrayal of the brotherhood. For weeks, we had people venting on the pages of SOFREP and on our SOFREP Radio interviews. And then I did something I don’t think anyone on the planet expected.
I had Jesse on the podcast as my guest. Not only that, but I didn’t attack him.
To be fair (to me, I mean), I did hold his feet to the fire. But I was respectful throughout. Some of our readers were incensed with me, which I completely understand. Chris was a friend. Did I think suing his widow was the right thing to do? Are you kidding me? I thought it was as low as it gets. But here’s the thing: the man still deserved to be heard.
