In the wake of yet another tragic school shooting, the United States finds itself at the same cross roads it has so many times before. Violence is an unfortunate byproduct of existence – even acts of senseless violence against one another aren’t without precedent in nature – but we, as a people, are tasked with finding a way to mitigate the influence of that universal truth within the framework of our own society, without violating the rules and rights that form the very basis of our way of life.

And when it comes to violating those rules or rights, each political party has a short list of allowances they perceive as acceptable. If you learn hard Left, you tend to think freedom of speech extends only as far as your emotional tolerance, and that the right to bear arms is an outdated, even barbaric concept. If you lean hard Right, you’ve got your own problems with the First Amendment any time a movie with a black or female protagonist gets a little media buzz and those cranky “SJWs” start applauding. “You want all-women screenings of ‘Wonder Woman’ Not in MY America!”

It’s all stupid, but not because we are. We’re animals: prone to herd behavior, defensive when threatened, and hard wired to survive. In the absence of legitimate threats, a little internet outrage will do; we choose sides, muster our defenses, and prepare for meme-warfare. May the snarkiest Facebook post win. Then, once the adrenaline fades, we regroup and prepare for tomorrow’s battle. What will it be? Now way to know until we check the morning’s hashtags.

But what if we want to actually affect legitimate change that might save lives? What if we’re scared for the safety of our children, or we worry about the gradual degradation of individual liberties? What is that we can do?

The whole country has watched this song and dance before. We’ve watched presidents talk about what needs to happen, we’ve seen Jimmy Kimmel and Stephen Colbert cry and tell us that gun owners are monsters, and we’ve seen it all die down in the face of a new trending outrages without anything at all actually changing. Maybe you’re sick of that, maybe you’re pleased, but in either regard… you’re looking in the wrong places.

We don’t live in a fascist dictatorship where all of our country’s decisions are made by a single man – that much shouldn’t’ surprise you, but what might surprise you is that our nation actually has 50 state level governments that address the same kinds of complex issues we all watch on the national stage – the only difference is, at the state level, there’s a chance to pass legislation that actually makes sense for the state.

Over the years, I’ve lived in Red states and Blue ones. From the Northeast to the Southwest and eventually, the deep South, and under state level governments that ranged from tax-heavy and oppressive to hardly present at all – and while I’ve griped about some and applauded others, one thing has held true throughout: what works in one place probably wouldn’t work in another.

Pictured: Totally okay way to walk around my yard in some states. Totally fast way to end up in prison in others.

Massachusetts, for instance, maintains gun laws that are so silly that during my time stationed there as an Active Duty Marine, I had to keep my firearms at a friend’s house in Vermont. Securing a license to even have my guns meant applying for a non-resident license and jumping through a series of bureaucratic hoops that included a written request to the local chief of police, complete with letters of recommendation. Let me remind you, that was just to have a gun locked in a safe in my house, not to actually carry one in public.