When you spend as much time online as I do, internet trends become nearly impossible to ignore. If the internet is angry at a dentist for shooting a lion, I see more memes about it before breakfast than any human should have to endure. If the internet has chosen to congratulate Caitlyn Jenner on her choice in hair style, we all need to fall in line no matter how many people she kills with her car in the same week. The internet, as wide open and all-encompassing as it purports to be, is a bastion for groupthink, where ideas that aren’t in keeping with the consensus are met with violent rejection.

Chief among these trends in recent years is an idea that started innocently enough: Bullying is bad.

The anti-bullying crusade that started on the internet now encompasses all things domestic—from free lunches at elementary schools to rhetoric at presidential debates—and at its core, it’s a fair and reasonable concept. People should be allowed to go about their lives free of discrimination, and as a society, we should encourage mature interactions with one another, where conflicts can be resolved peacefully and without resorting to our baser instincts when standing in line at Dunkin’ Donuts.

Bullying is bad. There, internet, I said it.

But here’s where I start to risk my digital skin: Anti-bullying crusaders are terrible for our country, bad for kids, and (in what might give some of my more liberal friends heart attacks) are responsible for Donald Trump winning the election.

I can sense the fingers of angry Facebook commenters warming up already…and that speaks directly to my first point. Making such an inflammatory statement online is the digital equivalent of spilling your lunch tray on the high school bully: You can’t expect to escape without violent repercussions. I have no doubt that I’ll receive messages on my Facebook page about how I’m a part of the problem, followed by expletives and maybe a threat or two. When I explained my position on the subject to my own wife, she responded angrily, accusing me of being a bully myself and not understanding what high school was like for people like her.

And to be fair, I don’t. I was a starter on my high school football team as a sophomore, I won homecoming king, dated the prom queen, and drove a convertible Mustang to school. I was the bad guy in every high school movie I’ve ever seen, but my wife tends to forget that my “high school bully” days were the book end on a childhood that was spent in utter poverty for the most part. My family lived in a camping trailer in upstate New York when I was born. We didn’t have running water and our electricity came via an orange extension chord we’d run from my grandfather’s house trailer. Over the years, my parents became more successful, in large part because they went back to school, and by the time I was in high school (in the fourteenth town I’d lived in to that point) I had mastered being the poor new kid: that same kid we all might recall picking on at lunch in the ’80s and ’90s, back before it was seen as a hate crime.

But my dad’s career blossomed at just about the same point in time that I hit puberty, which can be likened to winning the lottery for a teenage kid. My dad, as accustomed to being poor as any of us, spent money frivolously on things (like a cool car for me) at the exact point in time that I stopped looking like Rick Moranis and started looking like the Alex I am today.