We’ve talked about the whole “Grey Man” thing in the past and in certain situations yes you should endeavor to blend into your surroundings and become the grey man, but as far as Selection, I’m sticking by my earlier observations and say that it isn’t a smart thing to do.

I’ve gotten questions and emails about being the grey man and to me, trying to do so unless you’re a trained professional will have the opposite effect. So my advice is simple… Don’t.

I know this goes contrary to what some cadre members of Selection courses tell candidates and we’ll get to my feelings on that below. But first you say, when is it a good time to be a “grey man?”

One is if you are either in SERE (Survival, Evasion, Resistance and Escape) training or in a live situation. Then the last thing you want to stand out in any way. Standing out then usually rates a beating…or worse. Being the biggest or the most senior guy in the SERE Class is not a good way for being the grey man. The SRO (Senior Ranking Officer) is always singled out for real or perceived rules infractions….you get the idea. Once you get thru the Selection process and into the training pipeline, you’ll get to experience SERE up close and personal and all of your questions will be answered.