We all deal with negative self-talk, which is the root of limiting behavior. Identify, correct and create reminders that eliminate negative self-talk. Negative self-talk creates a barrier to personal growth. Fix this and watch yourself soar.
You can be your worst enemy or your best advocate with how you talk to yourself. (e.g., I really suck at chess. I’m not good with numbers. I can’t remember names. I’m not a good public speaker.) If we think about it, we become it. Change how you view yourself and develop a growth mindset (e.g., I’m becoming better at remembering names. I’m starting to learn how to be a great public speaker.)
This also has to do with your environment. Hanging out with negative people or a work culture of negativity can be the difference between growth and stagnation.
Look at these two airlines. Jet Blue versus United Airlines. Can you guess which has the better culture?
Analyze your friends and family. Who is reinforcing negative patterns, and who among them is encouraging you to spread your wings and soar?