This is for the young troops heading to Spec Ops Selection. It doesn’t matter if it is for the Ranger Regiment, Air Force Special Operations, Navy SEAL or SFAS. We all have our strengths and weaknesses. Nobody does everything perfectly, well some very rare guys do, but even they started from somewhere. 

When preparing for Special Operations, and I’ve seen this countless times, guys tend to stick to things they do well and pay less attention to things they don’t do so well. They’re not ignoring them per se, but like most people, no one likes doing anything where they feel they’ll look foolish. 

This speaks to breaking out of our comfort zone. I wrote about this on SpecialOperations.com about a year ago. Falling into this trap can lead to stagnation both personally and professionally. We have to fight that to reach our goals. 

Here’s a quick question for everyone, answer it to yourself and be truthful: When you are working out do you have a favorite exercise that you like to work into your routine all the time? Why? No doubt because you are good at it. 

No one likes to look foolish when doing anything — especially among our peers. And in Special Operations we can be brutally hard on each other as well as on ourselves. But there comes a time when all of that has to disappear and you have to look at yourself in the mirror dispassionately. The fact of the matter is that very, very few people are good at something the first time they try it. That’s why we have to take a look at ourselves and identify what we’re good, and what we’re not so great, at. 

When I was younger, I had a phobia for speaking in public. Truth be told, I still do. It wasn’t until I was in college that I finally got over that. How? I had a professor that broke down what exactly I was uncomfortable with (and those things were truly nothing to be concerned about) and that allowed me to break through that barrier. 

While no one will ever confuse me with Winston Churchill as an orator, as anyone who has heard one of my podcasts can attest, now I actually do enjoy public speaking in a slightly less uncomfortable way. I’ve embraced the challenge and, as anyone on the line when we do a writer’s call will tell you, getting me to talk isn’t the problem — now their main problem is when will that guy shut the hell up.

When training for SF, I was a good but not great runner. I could easily run for distance but was never one of the faster guys. I also sucked at climbing ropes, and again, the truth be told, I’m still not great at it. But my training partner was a deer in the running department and, as he used to say, “a rope-climbing MFer.”