Think you can do something or that you can’t. You’ll be right in both cases.

Words matter.

I talked about this in a recent article on self-talk and on how important it is, especially for the parents among us, to manage it.

Self-imposed barriers are a big thing that I want to tackle separately here.

We’ve all been there before and chances are we’ll have this internal struggle with what we are “good at” until we drift away into the ether like a smoldering campfire. But, and there is a but, we can always improve ourselves, and this is good news.

An example of a self-imposed barrier: “I’m just not good with names.”

That declaration has just made it impossible for you to get good at remembering them. It’s such a simple thing but if we learn what we want to change, we can fix it by changing the way we limit ourselves.

I saw the power of this change first in my own students when I was a sniper instructor, and later in my kids. It can be transformational both for kids and adults. Just ask Marcus Luttrell if he still reflects on the mental management training he received when I was his instructor at sniper school.