I feared I had lost my son to his friends and to teenage life so I lured him into the High Sierra to celebrate his 18th birthday, and then threw him off a cliff.

Extreme, I know; but for those of you who work long hours, travel often, or ever worry about spending enough time with your kids, you can understand why I had to do it.

I had been gone so frequently, and had been so busy when I was home, that I went almost two months with hardly saying a word to him.

After spending over 16 years in the military including a decade in the SEAL teams my family became more than accustomed to me away on deployments and secret missions that would obscure my whereabouts for months.  We were pretty good at it, thinking that when I left the Teams in 2008 things in our family could only get better, now that I wouldn’t be gone for months on end.

We figured “Quality Time” would show up in this soon to be “Quantity of time.” We could not have been more wrong. It would turn out that the closer I was to home the further I would be away from my family.

We all wake up everyday at home, go to work, and then come back home. Even if we go away for a few days on business we don’t really need to be “gone.” Phone, email, FaceTime, etc. keeps us no further than a few clicks away from “Home.”

Chad Looking For It
Chad Looking For It

They say “Home is where the heart is,” and for most of us our bodies may be present, but our hearts couldn’t be further away.

As parents we are competing with extreme circumstances. Since we are competing with a world of extreme when it comes to getting the attention of our kids, I’ve found that meeting extreme with extreme works well.